Harry Lansley

Harry Lansley

Emotional Intelligence Specialist

Emotional Intelligence is not complicated. 

Too often, those who teach others about emotional Intelligence overcomplicate it. At its core, EI is straightforward – Can you recognise emotions in yourself? Can you observe them in others? And can you use this knowledge to influence yourself and/or them? 

Chances are, if you are good at recognising emotions in yourself, you’ll be good at noticing them in others. The same goes for managing yourself and influencing others. 

Conceptually, it’s a f***ing doddle.

Those who try to make it difficult by contextualising it to specific fields or job roles, or those who come up with 50+ criteria are trying too hard to make something simple difficult… at that point, it’s become an ego thing.  

To make scrambled eggs, the best chefs still only use eggs, butter and some seasoning… maybe a little creme fraiche too for the Ramsey fans out there. 

We’re a big fan of keeping things simple here. We understand that Emotional Intelligence is not a tool to be applied to a specific job. Emotional Intelligence is a lifelong discipline that enriches every aspect of your life, your family’s life, your colleagues, the local shopkeeper, and your mates down the pub.  

The value of Emotional Intelligence is that it can be applied everywhere and with everyone. 

Built around our value of simplicity, we have developed the EmotionIntell model that has just 12 competencies across the four elements of Emotional Intelligence – Self Awareness, Self management, Social-Awareness and Social Interaction. As you’ll notice going through these competencies, they are clear, clean, generic, and perfect for any and all contexts. 

The EmotionIntell 12 competencies are: 


Self-awareness is about having the ability to

  • 1. Recognise our own emotions
  • 2. Identifying and anticipating triggers for our own emotions
  • 3. Appraising the appropriateness of own emerging emotional reactions to the context.


Self-management is about having the ability to

  • 4. Interrupt initial thoughts and reactions from emotion where necessary 
  • 5. Use/express emotion appropriately
  • 6. Regulate emotions to support response choice.


Social awareness covers the ability to:

  • 7. Read emotional signals from multiple channels.
  • 8. Interpret signals from others.
  • 9. Appraise options about actions relative to goals.


Social interaction covers the ability to:

  • 10. Engage others.
  • 11. Explore to understand.
  • 12. Influence others towards our goals.

With these 12 competencies, you will need nothing more to take control of your emotional life in any given situation. 

If you would like to learn more about the EmotionIntell approach and further enhance your Emotional Intelligence, take a look at the 3-day Virtual Workshop: EmotionIntell, the Pioneering approach to Emotional Intelligence.

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Harry Lansley

Harry Lansley

Emotional Intelligence Specialist